Iyanla wrote, “Most of us
tell little fibs to impress others or to hide what we perceive to be a
weakness. To keep from being found out, we are compelled to lie. But remember,
what you draw to you is what you are. If you are being dishonest with someone,
someone will be dishonest with you. Dishonesty in general, and lying in
particular, is the fear-motivated behavior of the need to be in control and the
lack of self-knowledge.”
Someone once told me that she doesn't lie. She just
withholds information and omits the truth.
Huh? Can you say that again?
Some people have this knack or this uncanny ability
to twist things and I am the idiot who fell
for all their half truths, fibs and lies.
She even said that some information were not
relevant to our friendship.
I have been around so many pathological
liars and I have had enough of them.
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May I quote an article that I just read in Yahoo.
http://ph.she.yahoo.com/how-to-avoid-a-scam-021137141.html
May I quote an article that I just read in Yahoo.
http://ph.she.yahoo.com/how-to-avoid-a-scam-021137141.html
Con-men have always sought out new ways and means to deceive people into believing their tall tales, only to be left high and dry at the end of the ordeal. So here are a few tips and tricks that you can practice to avoid getting caught up in a scam:
1. Do a thorough background check.
Con men usually have a shady and hazy background. They either have a vital aspect of backlog missing or tend to give out vague answers whenever questioned about their past or previous ventures. Unfortunately though, the professionals also have that covered and they tend to give an elaborate past which may sound thoroughly believable. The only way to confirm this is to check and cross-check the facts with legitimate sources, and then do a full-blown research before venturing into the deal.
2. If it's too good to be true, then it's probably fake.
Be extremely cautious of the extravagant image that the con-men paint in front of your eyes. If they’re trying to sell you something, they may over-sell it and add certain sly points just to make themselves sound more convincing. Having a thorough knowledge of that field will help you in differentiating the good from the bad, or from the worst.
3. If it's for free, you may end up paying for it.
Stay alert about anything that closely says that it’s free. Nothing is for free, and if it was, they would’ve given it away without any strings attached. There is always a package, a scheme or a programme that they’d tell you to enrol in to avail the free offer. Be careful before venturing into such shady deals. Or even better, don’t venture at all! And always remember, nothing is free!
4. Look for proof.
It is always preferred to have some physical proof ready just in case a con-man tries to con you. Having a paperwork in place or some CCTV camera footage, photographs, phone conversations, messages, emails, etc. This will provide a strong proof if you ever get conned and run the risk of being proved innocent. Also, rope in your close associates and let your plans be known to your family members and friends. A witness goes a long way in resolving such cases.
5. Check the paperwork.
Con-men tend to possess legit looking paperwork that can pass off as the real one. So always have a brief knowledge about the paperwork being conducted. Also, always keep a lawyer handy to understand and comprehend the legal jargon that might be used to confuse you. Never take any hasty decisions or run into conclusions. Take your own sweet time to make decisions.
The lesser you use your common sense, the more you are likely to be duped. Make the con-men’s work difficult by avoiding their scam tactics. Use these handy tips to spot a swindle and nip the devil in the bud.
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I didn't do these things. I thought that friendship and trust were enough.
/ betsisanders 2013
