As I was reading again at midnight, I came across this article written by Anita Kelly PHD, "Who falls for dishonest people? Not who you'd expect."
Dr. Kelly said , "... it has been observed in many cultures
that individuals high on this “super trait” (Honesty-Humility) are sincere,
modest, fair-minded and non greedy. She
wrote that these people do not exploit others.
Those on the low end of the trait are dishonest, haughty, arrogant, lack
empathy and exploit others. In other words, they are narcissists.
Dr. Anita Kelly
wrote: Narcissists … spend
so much time on their image. They know how to dress, walk, and talk in ways to
literally charm the
pants off others. She further added that the honest person may be
especially vulnerable to the charms of a narcissist. She said, “… honest people
tend to see others … as more honest than they actually are and by the same
token, narcissists tend to see others as more dishonest than they are. Honest
people may give narcissists the benefit of the doubt when exploitation begins.”
“At some point, the honest person discovers that the narcissist is a liar and a
cheater.”
I’m
probably the most candid, frank and straight-forward person you've met. I’ve fallen prey from many narcissistic
friends. I’ve turned my back on them. They are so not worth my time, sincerity
and generosity. They have taken some of my savings, enjoyed free dental
consults, even treatment, and free food. (papakain ko na nga lang sa anak ko,
ibibigay ko pa sa kanila… ganyan ako katanga!) The last one who took a lot, settled with my husband last December after he sued her in court for estafa. He didn’t let this narcissist, the one who took advantage of my trust , get away this time.
A
friend told me this afternoon that I should have gone to the reunion last week. She referred to me as the offended
person. My offenders (her groupmates... haha) were at the reunion,
seemingly appearing to be jubilant and victorious. Thanks dear for your
concern. But I really do not care what
other people think. I'd rather stay home with the boys, read, write, paint or blog. In the end, I can
only depend on family and a few honest
friends, those who've known me since 5th grade, those who believe in me, those who do not expect anything to gain from our friendship, those who would stand by me.
http://chicsanders22.blogspot.com/2015/06/el-nido-2015.html
Advance Happy Father's Day B!!!
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Thanks for the short staycation.
We all needed a break!
http://chicsanders22.blogspot.com/2015/06/breakfast-at-spiral-after-restful-sleep.html
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